Friday 10 May 2013


Stay at Home Mother vs Working Mum...what to do, what to do.

Over the past week or so, I've been doing a lot of thinking.  I know, you can probably smell the smoke all the way in Canada.  I would like to go back to work.  I haven't decided yet if I'd like to return on a full time or part time basis, but, the itch is there.  I love staying home with my babies, I really do, but, I miss the social aspect of working outside the home.  I love the hustle and bustle of the daily grind.  There is a confidence you feel when you enjoy what you do for a living.  I used to love getting up, putting on a nice dress, tights, heels (sometimes), and going to do something I really loved...and getting paid for it too!  The down side to this, if I return full time, I'll be missing out on time with my children.  I've waited so long to have them, and now I get to enjoy all these special moments with them.  They grow up so quickly, too quickly, and I'd hate to regret the time I missed with them just to make a few extra bucks. Soooooo confused!! xx  babiesmumma xx

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  1. Can you get the social aspect without going off to work? Maybe volunteer once a week somewhere... Somewhere where you still get to dress up and look all cute. Just a thought.

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    1. I could, but if I was going to do all that, I'd like to also get paid. I like the idea of volunteering, but I'm looking to bring home a little extra cash as well. Even if it's just a few nights a week while the babies are in bed? I just don't know...I'm really going to have to think on this one. xx

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  2. Being a parent is the hardest and most rewarding job on the planet.... Having something for yourself, just for you is paramount. You are not just a mother; but a grown woman too... don't lose sight of that. Some may kill me for saying this but it's the honest truth. When Sam was little I welcomed the break when away from him.... I love him more than life itself but we all need a break from our little ones and sometimes that break actually comes in the form of "going to work". : ) - Sandi

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  3. I went back to work when Teddy was 9 months old. While I enjoyed the social aspect, I felt very ripped off of my time with my baby. I was working retail, so that meant being away from Teddy while he was awake and spending my time a the mall. I very much enjoyed helping my customers (I worked at Dorlene - a ladies clothing store) and the relationships I built while in the workforce, but I was too tired from working full time to enjoy my kid. I'm lucky enough to be a stay at home mom, Ted's job allows us to have that very old fashioned set up (and since we're kind of weird that way, it works for us) At the end of the day you have to do what's going to make you happy, but don't negate all the work you do as a stay at home mom.

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  4. Sandi, I feel the same way as you do. Especially because I had children later on in life. I've never considered myself to be a "career woman" as such, but, I do want something of my own. My husband and my children are my world, but I also believe having that time away is healthy. In saying this though, I think I would feel devestated and "ripped off", as Heidi put it, if I were to go back full time. I think initially, I'd like to try it out a few nights a week. Then, when the kids are school age, go back full time. I think if I do things this way, I will have the best of both worlds. Thank you, ladies, for your feedback! xx

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  5. Stay home :) I have been a stay at home mom since forever and honestly I wouldn't change it for the world being there for my kids 24/7 so out weighs the every day dollar :)

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    1. I agree, Julie, and I think that's what my choice is going to be. Unless I find something a few times a week, in the evenings when Rob's home, other than that, I'm going to wait until the kids are both in school to start full time work. My job at home is far more important! xx

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  6. When the boys were young I had part time work. Even though I was only gone a few times a week I still felt like I was missing out on things. When Rheal was born I went back to work when he was only three months old because we needed the money. I have always felt like the connection I have with him is not as strong as it would have been if I had stayed home longer. Then when Angelle was born I didn't go back to part time work until she was two. We knew she was going to be our last and I wanted to enjoy it for as long as I could without interruption. Now that they are all in school full time, I have to say I love working. I still don't work more than 30 hours a week and I still miss out on things from time to time but because I love my job now it doesn't sting so bad. I know that even though I am not at home helping I am needed at work also and it gives me the same rewarding joy. Don't stress over your decision. Try it and if it doesn't work for you...quit !! and stay home with the babes until they are in school full time. The one other benefit to two working parents is we get to do a lot more things with kids and Christmas and birthdays are a big to do, if we didn't have the extra income it would be all about the bills, the grocery and the bare minimum.

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    1. I have decided to not make a decision! lol If a part time job comes up that I fancy, I will probably apply and take it from there, but, I'm not going to stress anymore over it. My job at home is more important right now. I'd love the extra income, but, this is only for a short time...I'll never get these years back with my children...and they are #1. xxxx

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